Surely you know someone who always seems to have a good attitude towards life , regardless of what life has been good or bad. You may even see yourself reflected in this affirmation and be yourself the one with the positive attitude. What we want to talk about in today's article is precisely this type of person; emotionally healthy people and how, if it is not your case, you can become one of them.
There are some things in common that have and encourage emotionally healthy people and could serve as a key to get out of a dark and harmful routine. Take note of the following pillars and beliefs, which may help you feel better on an emotional level and, perhaps, make your relationships better.
The 7 pillars of emotionally healthy people
Dr. Ellen Hendrikson identified a pattern of ideas and beliefs she used to perceive in people with a emotional health stable and enjoying success in life. Before going further in this aspect, we will tell you that it is not that these emotionally healthy people have all these points at the same time and neither should you be punished if you do not have some of these affirmations. But they will serve you as useful goal to be able to decipher your psychological state.
We list now what are those seven beliefs that emotionally healthy people have and that you should try to cultivate if you think you do not have them. This is the list:
1. "I can continue with what I am doing"
Either stay in a course that one day you decided to start or simply resist the temptation not to attend one of the classes for preferring a film session at home. The important thing at this point is the trust that you have in your capacity to continue with your objective, that is the first key point to carry it out successfully.
2. "I can do things that I do not feel like doing"
There is a term that describes this idea and is "behavior independent of the state of mind". It basically means that there are times when you do not feel like doing a certain thing but you do want to do it. In this case you should do it, despite your desire. In most of the times, your mood will end up following you and you think that if it does not end up being like that, at least you have done what you wanted to do.
3. "I can with the inconveniences"
Our question on this point is this: when you face obstacles, you surrender or try to avoid them? Believing that you can overcome obstacles reflects a certain degree of flexibility. Like the first norm, this idea of overcoming potholes reinforces the ability to adapt.
4. "Everyone deserves a deal based on respect"
You will not achieve a healthy, stable and healthy emotional life if you disrespect others by valuing them for their money, their race, their class, gender, profession ... To be one of those emotionally healthy people it is important that you know and recognize that we all deserve a deal of respect.
5. "I know how to laugh at myself"
This point, in some way, is related to point 3. If you make a mistake, do you burden yourself or attack others? Do you take it easy or get into a rage? Getting some perspective can help you see those setbacks, even those failures, with some humor.
6. "I am capable"
This point should be used as a mantra. If you think you are strong enough to achieve what you set out to do, you will be closer to driving away the dreaded anxiety . If you analyze it, you will realize that a large part of the jobs you carry out focus your confidence on your ability to overcome any setback that may arise when reaching your goal.
7. "I can love and I am able to love"
In 1938, Harvard initiated a long-term study on the development of adults, which is still in force 80 years later. Dr. George Vaillant was the research director who lasted the longest in the project. Vaillant summed up the research in 4 words "Happiness is love".
Mental hygiene to be emotionally healthy people
But not everything is so beautiful or so easy to carry out. There is also bad news. Often it is not so easy to try to get rid of negative or harmful thoughts and get to replace them with positive thoughts. Getting it takes some time and a certain degree of consciousness, so it's something that you have to cultivate and keep practicing. The help therapies are a great idea if you are one of those people who may have difficulties to achieve it . A good professional can help you guide those thoughts to healthier mental habits.
What does exist is a recurrent thought. In the face of any negative thought, it must be discarded. Studies have shown that cleansing the mind can go a long way in helping you get rid of the harmful thoughts that keep you from moving forward and learn to channel your energy to positive things.
What do you think about our article about emotionally healthy people? Do you consider yourself one of them? If so, how do you get rid of bad thoughts and focus on being happy? We are very interested in your opinion so we invite you to leave us your comments: We will be happy to read them!